The argument over “Fed is Best” seems to come up regularly in mom groups. I frequently see these posts on Facebook with moms on both sides getting really heated. I think this is inevitable with an emotionally charged subject.
The debate over breast milk versus formula can get super ugly.
Before going any further, I want to be very clear that formula is a perfectly healthy way to feed a baby and it has definitely saved lives.
I want to support all moms.
But I must admit that I am struggling with this phrase and I think we should be able to discuss the actual language we use. My critique of a phrase is NOT a critique of formula or moms who use formula.
I’d like to be able to be able to talk about this phrase from a less emotional standpoint. I’ve boiled my thoughts down to a single point that does not address formula or breast milk.
It comes down to semantics.
What does “fed is best” mean?
Taken at face value, is it telling moms that they should feed their baby? Since feeding isn’t optional and the term best is a superlative adjective and implies that there are adequate alternatives, this statement seems paradoxical.
I’ve been trying to listen and really understand the intended meaning of the phrase.
Lots of moms have shared what the phrase means to them, some I would agree with and others I would not.
For instance, if the phrase is intended to mean “The health and happiness of mom and baby are more important than what baby is fed” then I wholeheartedly agree.
But is that what it means? I don’t know because that is not what the actual words mean.
Why can’t we just SAY what we mean?
I’m not sure any of these catchy slogans are actually helpful for moms. We sacrifice meaning for brevity.
What does this “fed is best” mean to you?